Posts by LoisLane looking for Superman

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Is it common for old men to marry young JW?

by adjusted knowledge in

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friends

i left in the 90's and marriage partners were similar in age at my former congregation.

i ran into a former jw friend from my childhood.

i haven't seen him in 15 years.

LoisLane looking for Superman

Recently, I checked on an old friend and wondered if his dear Dad was still alive. So I checked past obituaries and yes, he had died, in fact only this past Dec. He was 103. There were photos of him at his 100th birthday party, in his wheel chair, with his much younger Phillipina wife dancing in front of him. In the photos he and everyone else, looked very happy.

This fellow, "Ernie" lost his wife when she was 'just' 91 after 70 years of marriage.

Good for him for finding another love. After his wife died, he sold the family home for 1.5 million US and moved into a smaller home that was easier for him to get around in.

PS They were not baptized JW's. Some in the family did 'study' many decades ago.

LL

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Part of the USA's Violent Past

by fulltimestudent in

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xdd64sudz1a

LoisLane looking for Superman

Thank you Fulltimestudent for sharing some American history I was not aware of. I googled it and read some and will read more later.

The mines were owned by Rockefeller Jr. Controlled by him while living in New York City. That area of mines he owned in Colorado had the highest rate of accidents and death from poorly shorned up (is that the right word?) mining structures. The miners were paid for the tonnage they produced, not how they dug it out. (Tunnelling was on their time/dime.) Meaning during those early years Rockefellar did not pay the workers for 'making' the tunnels to get the coal, they were paid for delivering the coal.

At the end of the video he sang he 'hung'... I was so afraid he was going to say he hung himself, but he said, hung his head in shame.

LL

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Conversation with my mother-in-law this morning

by StarTrekAngel in

i am skipping the details on how we got to this point.

conversation was calmed and pleasant and while i know she is not the most educated person (she can hardly read), its hard to justify it by saying is a matter of ignorance.

it is definitely something inside her that triggers on that very moment.. me: i don't know where all the money is going.

LoisLane looking for Superman

A close JW friend, 80, a retired registered nurse (so she is educated and reads well) recently said in a conversation I over heard, that in WT Paradise, there would be NO BOOKS (????? and ?????). Why do you say that, was the question asked? "Because they are all written by worldly people!" Did she hear an ignorant CO say that? Where did THAT come from? lol There is no saying anything to the contrary to her, because she is NOT thinking, straight or otherwise! lol

I was like your MIL. I sat at the meetings, if not day dreaming or trying to figure out the weeks meals and a grocery list, I would let the brainwashing go in one ear, rotate, and then I too would vomit out the WT sanctioned correct comment, when called upon, without giving it any thought. (Obviously. lol)

Don't be too harsh with her. I had doubts for years but I had to wait for the perfect storm to arise before I dared read the forbidden Crisis of Conscience. That book blew off all the closed and locked doors in my mind.

PS Also if your MIL doesn't read Spanish because of knowing other Mexican dialects, (I am saying that because you mentioned Houston) she probably is just a nice Mom trying to do her best for her family that she loves so much. It possibly has not come to her mind that the WT people would blantanly LIE to her. Poor thing. She needs your continud love and support, then when she see's all the WT BS, she will realize what a wonderful son-in-law she has! lol

All the best!

LL

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JWs through the eyes of an eight year old

by maksutov in

my wife is a jw, and is teaching our eight year old daughter jw beliefs.

i am trying to teach her about evolution and critical thinking skills.

here is a conversation we had today (as best i can remember it):daughter: "why do bad things happen?

LoisLane looking for Superman

When I was younger than your daughter, I asked my dad (while we were standing outside at night before getting ready to get into the car to go to meeting) 'Daddy, what is the moon made out of?' I sincerely wanted to know. He looked at the moon, then looked down at me and replied, 'Blue cheese'.

That was when I knew my father was s-t-u-p-i-d. lol I would much rather he took the time and told me something worth while and professional, even though it would have been over my head at the moment.

My belief is that your daughter will not forget the sincere questions she asks and your doubly sincere answers that you give her that no one else will.

You are doing a wonderful job trying to gently get her to think and reason. As a born in myself, I wish I had had a father like you.

All the best to you and your little family!

LL

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How a Gay Jewish Boy from New England Came to Be and Leave the JWs (and what he did next)

by CalebInFloroda in

born in cambridge, ma to a liberal couple that escaped the conservative south, my parents raised me better than to become a jehovahs witness.

funny thing was they got mixed up in it first.. while that is a story for another time, i myself had to go along as the third of five children in my family.

dads job transferred him to texas and my mom worked fulltime herself, but eventually we found ourselves drinking the kool-aid of ambiguity intolerance and full-fledge belief that the bible was literal fact and that salvation was found only by those who were smart enough to enter the confines of the watchtower.. its weird how many people claim they fear children raised by two gay parents will grow up to be gay.

LoisLane looking for Superman

Ladino, I had never heard of it, so to be polite and say hello and welcome to you I googled 'How to say hello in Ladino'. lol Presto! Bingo! Easy-peasy fresh apple pie, resulted in the above Ladino reply.

No, I am not Jewish. I have a varied gene pool including native American from a long time ago, but no Jewish people. Lots of religious English and Scots though.

I have a near relative who tells me I should seek out Jewish friends and get involved in the Jewish community way of life. He says they are wonderful and loving families who encourage education and getting ahead. (As in opposite JW dumb downed thinking, plus if you do think outside the JW box, the rest of the JW's won't have anything to do with you. That is so sick and unnatural).

You sound like a treasure. When you are ready for it, I hope you find the love of your life.

All the best!

LoisLane

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How a Gay Jewish Boy from New England Came to Be and Leave the JWs (and what he did next)

by CalebInFloroda in

born in cambridge, ma to a liberal couple that escaped the conservative south, my parents raised me better than to become a jehovahs witness.

funny thing was they got mixed up in it first.. while that is a story for another time, i myself had to go along as the third of five children in my family.

dads job transferred him to texas and my mom worked fulltime herself, but eventually we found ourselves drinking the kool-aid of ambiguity intolerance and full-fledge belief that the bible was literal fact and that salvation was found only by those who were smart enough to enter the confines of the watchtower.. its weird how many people claim they fear children raised by two gay parents will grow up to be gay.

LoisLane looking for Superman

Shalom CalebinFloroda!

Muncho plazen. Komo estash?

Me yamo es LoisLane.

Adyo!

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How many here gave up having a family for the sake of the "truth"?

by stuckinarut2 in

this is a sensitive topic for many of us i know, but i am wondering how many here actually gave up the idea of having a family "in this system" for the sake of "kingdom activity or service"??.

start the count here with my wife and i.

LoisLane looking for Superman

Stumpy and wife, I am so very sorry this happened to you. I know of others still in that have no children, some single some married. Some too old and others at the cusp of being too old. This is a horrible man made up publishing house's fault for putting their own interests ahead of anyone else's.

Myself, I wanted children. Lots of children. It would have brought me joy. During my 30's, if I saw a mom pregnant or pushing a stroller, I had to look away so I wouldn't cry. I didn't go to baby showers. It hurt too much. I got pregnant when I was 40 but lost the child. I had always hoped I would have it again in WT's 'Paradise' along with 20, 30, 60 (lol) or more children. (Or as many as I was allowed in WT's 'Paradise').

I just wanted to say I feel for you and all of us who's lives were twisted in a way we would not have planned, if we had not been JW's.

(Hugs) of understanding and support.

LoisLane

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Trying to live the rest of my life without being bitter.

by Bigdummy in

i'm new to this forum.. i was raised in " the truth" from age six and now i am in my mid 60's.

my wife was born in " the truth" and is very strong in the religion.

i have had many experiences during my lifetime with the other members of several congregations.

LoisLane looking for Superman

Welcome to the "Woke Up In My 60's Club"! lol

I've been out for 3 years and I am the happiest of my life!

We were not stupid! We were guillible and innocent.

I hope you are able to wake your wife up gently. It is so wonderful when a family wakes up together.

All the best!

LL

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Thoughts on My Exit

by losingit in

jw
friends

it has been some time since i last posted or even visited the site, and i wondered why that was.

life continued to be difficult without a network of friends to look forward to seeing.

the novelty of being disfellowshipped wore off, and the mundane advanced as it did every day.

LoisLane looking for Superman

losingit,

Thank you for 'checking' in and letting us all know how very well you are doing!

Congratulations on the baby, your degree and all four of you going forward, together.

You sound strong and happy!

All the best to you and your little family!

LoisLane

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15 Years of Jehovahs-Witness.com

by Simon in

yes, today is the forum's 15th birthday!.

i never thought for one moment that it would survive this long or have so many people post so many great subjects over the years.. it is still humbling when i get pm's or emails from people expressing how the site has helped them and of course thanks goes to all the posters who have shared their experiences and make helpful and supportive comments to others who are in the sometimes difficult process of learning the real truth about 'the truth'.. the site has gone through several different incarnations over the last 15 years running on different platforms, different databases and different hosts but we've been able to keep all the old topics.

the current site is still being developed and i'm hoping to push another major upgrade soon.. i also may have some other news to share soon about the future of the site so stay posted.. until then, here's the the next 15 years!

LoisLane looking for Superman

Three years ago, today, I was still a true blue believer. The next day at 5PM, I started reading C of C. Reading through the night, by 5AM March 25, 2012, LoisLane was out!

I had never looked at an XJW forum until the following August. After looking over what was available, I found this one was more to my liking.

Like most of you I was lost for a while. My whole world had fallen apart. I had been lied to my entire life. This Forum, helped me to pick up the pieces and move forward.

I am forever grateful Simon and to everyone else who held out a light and a helping hand to lead me to life where there is happiness and freedom and joy. The last number of months have been the happiest of my life. I go to bed happy and wake up happy. I have purpose in my life and that purpose has nothing to do with JW.org. They are a disgusting man made up business disguised as a fear mongering, Christian religion. I want nothing to do with them. Caleb and Sophia? Singing rolly carts? Spanz and bright socks and the laughable masturbating talks for the hearing impaired. I read it all here first. lol

LoisLane